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Jul 29, 2014

10 Ways to Love Yourself (Louise Hay)

1) “Probably the most important key is to stop criticizing 
yourself. If we tell ourselves that we are okay, no matter what is 
going on, we can make changes in our lives easily. It is when we 
make ourselves bad that we have great difficulty. We all change ——-
everyone. Every day is a new day, and we do things a little 
differently than we did the day before. Our ability to adapt and 
flow with the process of life is our power. 

Those who have come from dysfunctional homes often have become 
super-responsible and have gotten in the habit of judging themselves 
unmercifully. They have grown up amidst tension and anxiety. The 
message they get as children of dysfunctional homes is: “There must 
be something wrong with me.” Think for a moment about the words you 
use when scolding yourself. Some of the phrases people tell me are: 
stupid, bad boy, bad girl, useless, careless, dumb, ugly, worthless, 
sloppy, dirty, etc. Are these the same words you use now when 
describing yourself?

There is a tremendous need to build self-worth and value in 
ourselves, because when we feel not good enough, we find ways to 
keep ourselves miserable. We create illness or pain in our bodies; 
we procrastinate about things that would benefit us; we mistreat our 
bodies with food, alcohol, and drugs.

We are all insecure in some ways because we are human. Let us 
learn NOT to pretend that we are perfect. Having to be perfect only 
puts immense pressure on ourselves, & it prevents us from looking at 
areas of our lives that need healing. Instead, we could discover our 
creative distinctions, our individualities, & appreciate ourselves 
for the qualities that set us apart from others. Each one of us has 
a unique role to play on this earth, and when we are critical of 
ourselves, we obscure it.”

2) “We must also stop scaring ourselves. Many of us terrorize 
ourselves with frightful thoughts & make situations worse than they 
are. We take a small problem and make it into a big monster. It’s a 
terrible way to live, always expecting the worst out of life. 
Examples: Someone makes a remark at work, and you begin to think 
you’re going to be fired. You build these paralyzing thoughts in 
your mind. Remember, these frightening thoughts are negative 
affirmations. OR, people who are ill often visualize the worst or 
they are immediately planning their funerals. OR, someone doesn’t 
call you immediately, and you decide that you are totally unlovable 
and you’ll never have another relationship again, feeling abandoned 
and rejected. 

If you find yourself habitually reviewing a negative thought 
or situation in your mind, find an image of something you really 
would like to replace it with. It could be a beautiful view, or a 
sunset, or flowers, a sport, or anything you love. Use that image as 
your switch-to image every time you find that you are scaring 
yourself. Say to yourself, “No, I’m not going to think about that 
anymore. I’m going to think about sunsets, roses, Paris, yachts or 
waterfalls, or whatever your image is.” If you keep doing this, 
eventually you will break the habit.”

3) “Another way is to be gentle and kind and patient with 
yourself. Impatience is a resistance to learning. We want the 
answers without learning the lesson or doing the steps that are 
necessary. Think of your mind as if it were a garden. If you take 
loving care and attention to this garden, it gradually keeps 
improving and will blossom. The same with your mind —- you select 
the thoughts that will nurtured, & with patience they grow and 
contribute to creating the garden of experiences you want.” 

4) “We must learn to be kind to our minds. Let’s not hate 
ourselves for having negative thoughts. We can think of our thoughts 
as building us up rather than beating us up. We don’t have to blame 
ourselves for negative experiences, but can learn from these 
experiences. Being kind to ourselves means we stop all blame, all 
guilt, all punishment, and all pain. Relaxation is absolutely 
necessary for tapping into the Power within, because if you are 
tense & frightened, you shut off your energy. As you become tense, 
take a few deep breaths, close your eyes, and release whatever 
tension you are carrying. As you exhale, become centered & say to 
yourself silently: “I love you. All is Well.” You will then notice 
how much calmer you feel.”

5) “The next step is to praise yourself. Criticism breaks down 
the inner spirit, and praise builds it up. When you berate yourself, 
you belittle the Power that created you. Begin with little things.”

6) “Loving yourself means supporting yourself. Reach out to 
friends and allow them to help you. You really are being strong when 
you ask for help when you need it. Support groups can help, like 12 
step-groups.”

7) “Love your negatives. No matter what negative situation you 
are in, it’s there for a reason; otherwise you wouldn’t have it in 
your life.”

8) “Take care of your body.” Drug and alcohol abuse, overeating, 
and smoking are just some of the substances we take into our bodies 
to numb out the pain, and deal with life better. But, the sad fact 
is that it doesn’t help make it better. Take care of yourself, 
exercise regularly so your body can help support you in whatever 
comes your way.

9) “I often emphasize the importance of mirror work in order to 
find out the cause of an issue that keeps us from loving ourselves. 
Try looking in the mirror the first thing in the morning and say, “I 
love you. What can I do for you today? How can I make you happy?” 
Listen to your inner voice, and start following through with what 
you hear. Then, if something unpleasant happens to you during the 
day, go to the mirror and say: “I love you anyway.” 

Affirmations performed in front of a mirror are advantageous 
because you learn the truth of your existence. When you do an 
affirmation and you immediately hear a negative response such 
as, “Who are you kidding? It can’t be true. You don’t deserve that”, 
that is a gift you can use. You cannot make the changes you want 
until you are willing to see what is holding you back. The negative 
response you have just discovered is like a gift in that it becomes 
the key to freedom. Turn that negative response into a positive 
affirmation such as: “I now deserve all good. I allow good 
experiences to fill my life.” Repeat the new affirmation until it 
does become a new part of your life.”

10) “Finally, love yourself now — don’t wait until you get it 
right. Dissatisfaction with yourself is a habit pattern. If you can 
be satisfied with yourself now, if you can love and approve of 
yourself now, then when good comes into your life, you will be able 
to enjoy it. Once you learn to love yourself, you can begin to love 
and accept other people. We can’t change other people, so leave them 
alone.”

This lesson was written by Louise L. Hay, in her book called “The 
Power is Within You” published by Hay House, Inc. 

“One of our biggest spiritual lessons is to understand that everyone is doing the best they can at any given moment. People can only do so much with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that they have. Invariably, anyone who mistreats someone was mistreated themselves as a child. The greater the violence, the greater their own inner pain, and the more they may lash out. This is not to say that their behavior is acceptable or excusable. However for your own spiritual growth, we must be aware of their pain.
The incident is over. Perhaps long over. Let it go. Allow yourself to be free. Come out of prison, and step into the sunshine of life. If the incident is still going on, then ask yourself why you think so little of yourself that you still put up with it. Why do you stay in such a situation? Don’t waste time trying to “get even.” It doesn’t work. What you give out always comes back to you. So drop the past and work on loving yourself in the now. Then you’ll have a wonderful future.

That person who is the hardest to forgive is the one who can teach you the greatest lessons. When you love yourself enough to rise above the old situation, then understanding and forgiveness will be easy. And you’ll be free”

:Louis L Hay
Jul 29, 2014
Dukes up-you gotta fight
till the end,die hard.-Me
Jul 23, 2014

Dukes up-you gotta fight

till the end,die hard.-Me

Today was a beautiful day with my dearest :)
Jul 19, 2014 / 1 note

Today was a beautiful day with my dearest :)

Nevermind, i’ll find…
Jul 17, 2014 / 1 note

Nevermind, i’ll find…

Kids are just so delicious. I love the anxiety and the pressure of a loud room full of yapping kids. I’m like a kid myself so I get along very well with animals and children. I dig them. I get them. A child makes perfect sense to me. A child speaks more sense than an adult.
Zoe Saldana
Jul 15, 2014 / 1 note
Friends are forever and boys are whatever
but girls are weaker when it comes to the love liquor-Me
Jul 7, 2014 / 1 note

Friends are forever and boys are whatever

but girls are weaker when it comes to the love liquor-Me

It’s a liberty walk Sayin goodbye to the people who tied you up It’s a liberty walk Feelin your heart again Breathin new oxygen It’s a liberty walk Free yourself Slam the door! Not a prisoner anymore- Miley Cyrus
Jul 6, 2014

It’s a liberty walk
Sayin goodbye to the people who tied you up
It’s a liberty walk
Feelin your heart again
Breathin new oxygen
It’s a liberty walk
Free yourself
Slam the door!
Not a prisoner anymore- Miley Cyrus

"Womanifesto"

Clearly I am not a fat ass
I am active brain
And lip smacking peach deep
Sometimes too aggressive in its honesty
And heart sweet
That loves wholly and completely
Whom it may choose
Whom ever it may choose

I am not gonna lie and pacify
I am arms to hold
I am lips to speak
I am a motherfucking “G”

Strong legs that stroll off the 33 bus
Or out of a money green Phantom comfortably
Knees that bend to pray
Clean from Ajax washings
Hair that is thick and soft
Thighs that betwixt
An amazing all expense grand prize

I am eyes that sing
Smile that brightens
Touch that rings
And supplies euphoric release
I am a Grand Dame Queen Beast

I am warm
I am peace
From the roads of Botswana from 23rd Street
From the inside third eye
Ever watching this wicked wicked system of things
I do see

I am friend to pen
And a lover of strong women
A diamond to men
I am curious and interested like children
I welcome the wise to teach
Appreciator of my culture
Thick not just from bone dense and eat

I have a rhythm in my ways
And a practice in my seek
And yes, I do crave the rhythm of my space
With a man that rejoices in God’s Grace

With faith I do hear to listen
Two hands that fist
When forced pushes to shove
And your ego won’t submit

I am gifted
I am all of this
And indeed the shit

Clearly I am not just an ass

Jill Scott
Jul 3, 2014 / 1 note
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